Putting an end to stalking

What to do

If you think you are or may be being stalked, or are worried about someone’s obsessive or controlling behaviour

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Tell people

Let someone know what is happening: talk to a friend, family member, teacher, or tutor.

Reach out

Get specialist help: such as Paladin, or the National Stalking Helpline (see below).

Keep a diary

Record what is going on and, importantly, how it made you feel. Keep evidence such as screenshots, photos, or gifts.

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Call the police

Call 101 (or 999 in an emergency). Stalking is a crime and you deserve to be safe.

Vary your routines

Change your routes. Don’t always buy a coffee from the same shop at the same time.

Be cybersecure!

Check your passwords, check your privacy settings, and check your digital footprint.

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Always remember, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT.

You did nothing wrong. You did not lead them on.

You do not have to go along with them to stop them getting angry or make them leave you alone.

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Advice and support

Phone the Suzy Lamplugh Trust’s National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300 (calls are free and won’t appear on your phone bill). They are open weekdays between 09:30 and 16:00, except Wednesdays when they open at 13:00.

Paladin’s National Stalking Advocacy Service also provides support, advice and advocacy to high-risk victims of stalking. Paladin may be contacted directly on 0203 866 4107, or contacted by email. If you’re a young person, 16–25 years old, and think you are experiencing stalking, Paladin have a specialist young person’s ISAC (Independent Stalking Advocate) who can talk to you about this.

Various parts of the UK also have local support services.

Stalking is always distressing, and another option available in Wales and some parts of England (e.g. Cambridgeshire and Essex) is to call the NHS on 111, and follow option-2.

The main thing to know is that you won’t necessarily find the best advice by googling “stalking”. We recommend the following web pages:

Paladin’s advice for victims.

The Cyber Helpline.

Women’s Aid and the Suzy Lamplugh Trust also have useful on-line resources on stalking and domestic abuse.

The Stalking Risk Profile website, although aimed primarily at professionals working with victims or perpetrators of stalking, contains good general information on what stalking is, types of stalking, etc., as well as providing some really helpful general advice for victims.

The Empowering Internet Safety Guide for Women gives tips on protecting yourself on-line from stalkers and what to do in a range of situations.

National support services

Operated by the Suzy Lamplugh Trust, the National Stalking Helpline gives practical information, support, and advice on risk, safety planning and legislation to victims of stalking, their friends, family, and professionals working with victims.

The Cyber Helpline is a free, confidential helpline for individuals who have been a victim of cyber crime.

Paladin provides support, advice and advocacy to high-risk victims of stalking. If you’re a young person, 16–25 years old, and think you are experiencing stalking, Paladin have a specialist young person’s ISAC (Independent Stalking Advocate) who can talk to you about this.

Action Against Stalking provides support for victims of stalking in Scotland

National Stalking Helpline

Local support services

Changing Pathways

The Independent Stalking Advocacy team supports people experiencing stalking who live in the Basildon, Brentwood, Castle Point, Rochford, Thurrock, Harlow and Epping Forest areas. The service can also support victims who do not have a direct link to the person who is stalking them.

Splitz Support Service

This specialist service provides advocacy, advice and support for high risk stalking victims in Gloucestershire. The National Stalking Helpine (see above) offers a triage service and makes referrals.

Aurora New Dawn

Our Stalking Advocates are always on hand to offer support whenever we’re needed and to ensure that victims in Hamphsire and the Isle of Wight are protected, safe and aware of their rights under the law.

Protection Against Stalking

Local advocacy service for victims of stalking in Kent

Fylde Coast Women’s Aid

Specialist support, advice and advocacy to victims in Blackpool and the Fylde Coast area

Women’s Aid Leicestershire

Support for victims of stalking in Leicestershire

Veritas Justice

Confidential advice and support for people affected by stalking in Sussex


Sussex Stalking Support

Wearside Women in Need

Support for victims of stalking in Sunderland and the surrounding area

Black Country Women’s Aid

Our West Midlands Stalking Support Service supports women and men over 13 who are experiencing stalking and harassment in Birmingham, Sandwell, Dudley, Walsall and Wolverhampton.

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Are you a young person?

Young people and children can experience stalking in different ways from adults. There are a range of resources which are aimed at young people to help you to know what to do, and to spot the risks.


All of these services are bound by confidentiality promises, which means they will not share what you tell them with anyone, and information remains private.

An organisation only might need to say or do something if:

  • You ask them to;
  • They believe your life or someone else’s life is in danger;
  • You’re being hurt by someone in a position of trust who is able to hurt others like a teacher, religious leader, sports coach, police officer or doctor;
  • You tell them about another person who is being hurt and is not able to tell someone or understand what is happening to them; or
  • They are told to by law, for example for a court case.

Read the confidentiality promise here.

Childline is run by the NSPCC.

You can contact them free by phone: 0800 1111.

You can email them through a Childline account: login or sign up!

You can also talk to them with a British Sign Language Interpreter.

You can Ask Sam a question! Ask Sam is a free, confidential service. Anyone can write in with their problem and a few letters are responded to each week. You can also read advice to people who have similar problems to you.

This post describes a stalking situation involving someone the young person knows.

This post describes a situation about a friend needing support.

The NSPCC also has lots of advice for parents, such as this page about social media, which includes information about stalking.

A helpful article on What is stalking?

Paladin is the National Stalking Advocacy in England and Wales. Their Independent Stalking Advocacy Caseworkers (ISACs) ensure victims of stalking are supported to keep them safe.

They have a caseworker dedicated to young people experiencing stalking.

Phone number: 0203 866 4107

Email address:

If you have done some of these things yourself, or know someone who has

If you have done some of these things, you may already be committing the offence of stalking and YOU NEED TO STOP NOW! Stalking is an obsession and it is illegal—you can face a prison sentence of up to 10 years.

You may find it helpful to contact Respect, who can provide help to those offenders who recognise that they have a problem. The number is 0808 802 4040 and the line is open Monday–Friday between 09:00 and 17:00.

About us

The Alice Ruggles Trust is a UK-Registered Charity (CIO), registration number 1186309.

We exist to raise awareness of stalking (including coercive control), to ensure that relevant legislation is effective and adhered to, and to bring about lasting improvements in the management of perpetrators and the protection of victims.

The Alice Ruggles Trust is member of the National Stalking Consortium.

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